Comments on: Nice Guys (the story)

By: Dorethea Lindholm

Dorethea Lindholm — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 15:08:38 +0000

Continue the excellent work fellas!

By: BigZapfer

BigZapfer — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 07:07:43 +0000

Know this is a bit of late comment but this post is to true. I was a nice guy, I still am in the general sense, but to women now a I’m just a guy, love me or leave I don’t give a f**k anymore, I’m not going to bend over backwards to make you happy, you don’t like it, move on.

It took me a long time to learn that if you are too nice all the time you get no respect, and if people don’t respect you don’t get anywhere in life or anything you want. This is true between men and even more acute between men and women.

I don’t mean you have to be a jerk but nice guys do finish last, personally I’m sick to death of not getting what I want, life is to short.

Nice blog by the way, I see Marcus got to you to

By: fredison

fredison — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 09:04:24 +0000

Yes, it’s true women do have a lot of confidence and it certainly shows. But what I am saying is would you go out with a nice guy who does the things that I mentioned? Or is that too much?

By: Lou

Lou — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 05:54:44 +0000

Totally agree with GirlStar7 – who wants to be treated like c**p and hang out with an abusive man – life is too short!

Lots of females have a healthy esteem and on discovering that the guy they’re seeing is an ass – wouldn’t hesitate to “kick him to the curb” (despite how much it may hurt on first realisation).

“Treat someone well & expect to be treated well” – is certainly my motto!.

By: fredison

fredison — Tue, 06 Feb 2007 10:54:23 +0000

girlstar7, I totally agree with you, it’s always good to find guys who are a balance of nice and with a touch of the bad boy streak in them. I can also see that the typical nice guy can be boring and it’ll just take time for him to evolve. You know it’s good to see that you dump the guys that’ll treat you like shit because I know some girls that are just blind and still hang around. Thanks for your thoughts, they are most appreciated.

Mooiness, I get you now, you pretty much have everything that I wanted to write about covered, keep up the good work ^^. Definitely true about putting yourself out there on the limb. No girl is worth that at all.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Tue, 06 Feb 2007 09:22:19 +0000

Nah man, I only meant that I write about sex and relationships too.

As for this post, I don’t even analyse it as much anymore. If you like a girl, you ask her out very early on. If she likes you, then she’d say yes. And you won’t fall into the “friends” category by being too nice.

If she plays mind games, then you know to back off.

Plenty of girls in the world methinks – no need to put ourselves through mental torture and anguish, just move on. If she likes you, there’s no effort in it at all.

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Tue, 06 Feb 2007 08:44:39 +0000

I followed a link from mooiness’s blog (which I regularly read and comment on) and thought you might like a female perspective on the ‘nice guy’ and ‘bad boy’ debate.
Me personally I like someone in-between and I think a lot of girls are the same. I like some qualities of the bad boy: confidence, independence, outgoing personality, fun, risk-taking etc. Plus they often have the advantage of being physically attractive. However, i’m not the type of girl to hang around if a guy treats me like shit. I don’t like arrogant assholes and I don’t date them.
I also like some qualities of the typical ‘nice-guy’: attentive, caring, giving etc. However, one problem with the typical ‘nice guy’ as you said, is lack of confidence and self-esteem. And I find those qualities very unattractive. Some ‘nice guys’ I find to be very clingy and needy as well. Not sexy at all.
Hence the reason girls tend to lean towards the ‘bad boy’. They prefer the confidence projected by the bad boy than the neediness and insecurity projected by the nice guy.
Me personally I tend to go for guys that are nice, genuine, giving people however also are confident, independent and maybe a bit of a risk-taker. THe in-between. Hey, I’m just speaking for myself here but this is my personal opinion. I want a guy who is there for me during the tough times, makes me feel good about myself and treats me like a princess YET ALSO gives me space to see my friends, and have my own life, doesn’t constantly seek my approval and need me to boost his self-esteem and doesn’t smother me. Also, I don’t want someone who worships the ground I walk on so much that I have no respect for him.
So in a nutshell, that is MY opinion…hope this helps

By: fredison

fredison — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 13:28:54 +0000

Haha, ok can I just say that I didn’t even know you wrote about your first time nor nice guys. I can’t help it if great minds think alike you know =p.

By: Mooiness! » You’re the wind beneath my wings

Mooiness! » You’re the wind beneath my wings — Mon, 05 Feb 2007 12:05:59 +0000

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By: Cam

Cam — Fri, 02 Feb 2007 17:07:08 +0000

so true…yet so gay since im a nice guy. You girls are one stupid race.