Two weekends ago, I was just minding my own business late one night, talking to a friend, and then heard loud noises from outside my apartment.  I went out to the kitchen area, where the front door was situated, next thing I know I heard arguing and loud footsteps.  Then the next thing that sorta made me jump was a bang and some glass shattering, following by a loud thud from the door closing.  I opened my door to see what had happened, and there was my neighbour from upstairs, visibly shaken and crying.  Meanwhile her rather drunk and obnoxious (currently ex) boyfriend was just there, sulking and waiting to get back inside.
Neighbour: “What should I do”
Me: “Are you ok?”
Neighbour: “I’m so sorry for waking you up, he just came back and was drunk”
Me: “Would you like me to call the police?”
Neighbour: “No it’s ok, I don’t want to get arrested”

Then I backed away but kept my door away, as she proceeded to head down and talk it out with her ex man.  Still shaken, she told him to go home but he wouldn’t have any of it, and demanded that he let her back in.  Then what was a calm conversation turned into an ugly argument of who was right and who was wrong.  After exhausting all avenues, then came the pathetic part.  Dude started pleading for forgiveness and expressed of how much he loved her.  He kept repeating over and over again about how he loved her and that she should let him in.  When that didn’t work, he then wanted to leave the things that she bought for him, and from what I could see was just a hat, shirt and wallet with some money for the damage caused by him breaking the lights (hence the bang).  Now I wasn’t just standing there being a gossipy neighbour, I stood by the door just to make sure that she was going to be ok and that ex dude wasn’t gonna go all ape like and psycho.

Conclusion was that I called the police and they came to arrest him for disturbing the peace and damage to property.  While upset neighbour called her girlfriend to keep her company for the night and thanked me for watching over the situation and not just being a bystander who likes to be nosey.

The main point to this story is that it’s kind of sad that people would use the word “love” just to try and keep things together, when clearly the ship is sinking and it’s over.  Then to use it midway in a desperate attempt is even more sadder, the girl was already upset, why bring that funny word love up.  I can’t exactly give him credit, cause it wasn’t like he was fighting for it, just begging.

Meanwhile, a close friend of mine, who is currently married, is going through some tough times, from constant arguments, financial stress, and to put the cherry on top, there’s no intimacy whatsoever.  What keeps him in this marriage though, is that he says he loves her and she’s the woman of his dreams.  I’m once again forced to be a bystander and can’t say much, he already has plans to start a business soon and to have children.  I told him though that is he sure that he wants to commit to something of that magnitude, when all there is in this marriage is constant bickering.

Sometimes,  love isn’t enough, and there needs to be a reason and a foundation to keep things going.  I constantly talk about how there needs to be two people and not to let things be just a one way traffic.  Of course there’s going to be ups and downs, and things may not just go your way.  You just need to have an understanding of each other and have patience.  There also needs to be a compromise and in the end I’m sure it’ll all be worthwhile.

I’m rambling on like I’m an expert on this field but to be honest, I’m still learning my lessons and making sure that when the chance does come by, I’ll be ready to really say those three words, and not just to get into bed with someone, or just for a lousy excuse to get back with someone.

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Relationships are like glass.  Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.  ~Author Unknown