I broke up with my first girlfriend, because I felt I was too comfortable, things were too good to be true, we hardly had any argument and she was always willing to make me happy.  Had I stayed with her for a while, I would’ve probably thought this is it, this is what marriage is meant to be like, and *BANG* gotten married.  I would’ve been content doing the every day couple thing, but please give me a break, I was only 17 years old back then, there was no way I would’ve been ready for a long commitment.  Besides, breaking up with my first girlfriend was probably the best thing I could’ve done otherwise, I would’ve been just wondering and curious of what it would be like to date other women.

Another time, I broke up with an amazingly beautiful woman because she constantly just nagged me about my dress sense, which then led to having other arguments.  She was a nice girl and looked after me very well, just that I failed to see the big picture with her and broke up with her on my birthday (she planned a nice dinner for my friends and me which we cancelled since you already know why).

I can probably go on about the amount of times I’ve chosen to walk away from a girl simply cause it just didn’t feel right or I was bored.  That’s not being picky, it’s just saving myself the hassle in the future.  I find that the longer you drag things out with your partner, the harder it is to break up with them, because you are just misleading them into a false sense of security.  It’s better to be honest then play charades and mind games.

Fast forward to the present and I am currently single.  I constantly do get asked if I have a partner and if not why not?

Mr T: Dude why is it, that you don’t have a girl by your side, you’re like one of the nicest guys I know, girls dig that
Me: Hmm probably cause I just don’t go out enough and socialise like other people would?
Mr T: Nah I reckon it’s jus that your’re too picky
Me: ….
Mr T: I’m serious, half the times we comment on some chick that walks by and you think she’s the opposite.
Me: That’s not being picky dude, she just didn’t strike me as attractive
Mr T: Oh not to mention the fact that you’ve only ever dated asians
Me: What’s wrong with that?
Mr T: Well you’ve just cut your choices down and made things harder for yourself

There’s nothing wrong if I date just asians, it’s just growing up all I did was hang out with asians thus, the girls that I dated were asians, make sense ya?  It does make sense though, what if I broadened my choices to include all ethnic groups, it’s not that I don’t like them, I just never got to meet one to go out with in the first place.  Oh hey, why not include girls of any size and looks, and if girls don’t work out, include men so that way, I have a 100% chance of scoring!!!

FAIL!!  There’s no way I am gonna even think about making out with a guy (God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve), not that I have anything against gays.  Second of all, there’s nothing wrong with women, who are big, small or tall, just that if I see them and I am attracted to them then sure.  However to call me picky is just simply being ignorant, I can’t help my circumstances and it’s not like I have a abundance of women to choose from.  If I’m fortunate to meet someone nice and we connect, then it’s on, if we don’t connect then spare me the judgment.

Girls are more pickier then guys, but that’s in my opinion

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