Honesty is the best policy

In the past, I use to have a very relaxed policy about how my girlfriends interacted with guys.  It was so pretty much non-existent, but then a turn of events would lead me to change that policy, simply because I had lost a few of them to guys who I thought were friends or because I was just too carefree and didn’t seem to care.    My last relationship was a test in terms of that policy, since I did mind who she was hanging out with back then but was powerless to say anything.  Not to mention we were just getting to know each other, and there was some friends who I had yet to meet especially the ones who came into town and stayed with her.  Looking back on things, I don’t know if it would’ve helped with me being upfront and telling her what was on my mind since we were after all long distance.

Fast forward to this present day and age, where I find myself once again in a long distance relationship with someone I adore and care for very much.  The situation is almost similiar to the last but I believe that we’re off to a good start and a lot of that has to do with how we talk and express ourselves.  Although there is one situation that has already come up and has tested my policy of interaction with guys.  Not that I mind or am jealous, it’s more so that I don’t trust the person and think he’s just clearly causing troubles.  If the roles were switched around and he was in my position, I am fairly certain that he would not agree to me talking to the partner and would surely kick up a hissy fit.

The main thing though is that I want to say I appreciate her being truthful with me and telling me everything that does go on in this journey that we are undertaking together.  If we weren’t able to trust each other and be honest then what’s the point of being together and just wasting each others time?  There’s still a long way to go yet but I am prepared and have learnt all my lessons from the past to be where I am now, and that’s happy at last.  Meanwhile though to the dude who keeps crashing this party, I only have one appropriate response.