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My little nieces are rapidly growing all too fast for me, one minute they’re the sweetest, innocent, little girls and then the next they’re on the verge of becoming beautiful little women with boys chasing at their tails.  My last post regarding my nieces was on my old blog and it dated back 2 years ago.  I blogged about how I would take them out every Friday night and we would just go to the mall and just hang out.  That was in one part a form of my own happiness, just to be with family and enjoy their company.

Fast forward now to the present, and my oh my, things are just not what I had pictured.  One niece has moved out of home and is currently living with her boyfriend. While another of my nieces is already halfway through year 11, but struggling since her parents have placed a huge amount of pressure for her to be in University and to study accounting when she finishes college.  The youngest niece in the meantime is probably doing quite well and no doubt, I believe has a bright future out of the three.

I can’t do much but just listen to them talk about their fears, problems, and what they hope to achieve in the near future.  Give them advice when they ask for it, such as how to deal in the 21st century with racism, and I thought that we as a nation, had moved on from phobia but alas, racism still exists.  I’m probably acting like a father when I talk about this, but I do make them aware that the majority of guys in this world are just interested in one thing, and that’s sex.  It’s kinda awkward for me to talk about protection etc, but they’re not stupid and as a result can be mocked about why I bring the subject up.

I look forward to how they will handle what is up ahead for them and rest assured that I will be there when the going gets tough, cause it’s what expected from their uncle Fred or in their words “Chu Vu”.

 2006-12-25

2008-07-26

Like a missing piece in a puzzle, I miss them.

There is no doubt that this is how you’ll probably feeling after today’s “surprise” lunch.  Hope that you withstood it and it wasn’t too painful.  Bonus points if you managed to tick my mum off like I do when I say random shite in front of her friends haha.

I just got a call from my Dad and it all started like this:

Dad: Hey I just missed you by 5 minutes last night
Me: Well I was expecting you to be home at 6
Dad: Yeah I was busy sorry
Me: ……..
Dad: Can you do me a favour?
Me: Hmm what did you need?
Dad: It’s Co Catherine’s birthday today and can you get me some flowers for her?
Me: I finish late today Dad?!?!!

Seriously who in their right mind calls their own son to get his father’s girlfriend, some flowers just for her birthday.  It’s probably acceptable if say she was my own mother or someone that I’ve known for quite some time.  However in no way does it vouch for someone who is currently 6 years older then me and doesn’t really matter that much to my Dad (he’s still being the same old same old).

Even if my dad has had a child with this woman and they have been together for 4 years or more, I still feel that by me getting my Dad these flowers, I am letting him get away with murder and taking the easy way out of things.  He’s always been like that when it comes to relationships, it’s just all about him and his physical needs.  He’s already got both my sisters not accepting his ways and regardless I will never see a change.

Sigh, however I have to help out the old man since I will feel guilty if I let this slip by and am now about to go get ready to go down the local grocery store and buy him some damn flowers for the lady who does not really matter one bit in my life.

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Edit: I didn’t buy it for my Dad, my Dad had wanted me to do this as a surprise for her.  Talk about weird moments.

I took her out and just spent time with her to check how she is doing.  She assured me that life was fine, she’s safe and life seems a lot better now that she’s left her home.

As I write today’s entry, my arms, shoulders, possibly my lower back are gonna cop it tomorrow morning when I wake up.  I assisted my cousin and his family’s belongings into a truck, so that tomorrow they can unload it to their new house.  We couldn’t unload it all tonight since it was just too late and bad timing.  I got to see his new house and my cousin has hit the jackpot with this home.  It’s like 7 bedrooms with 4 bathrooms and a really spacious house with a wine cellar and much much more.  I look forward to the day that I can do this and have something that I call my own.

It was just a Thursday afternoon, when I got a email and it was from an old friend who I haven’t seen in quite some time.  She told me some news which brought some tears of happiness, and I’ve never been this emotional for anyone who’s expecting to be a parent, let alone the second time around.  She’s going to be doing some tough times, as once again, she’ll have to go through the symptons of pregnancy.  I hope to see her in December when I swing by New York, but it won’t be like the old days when I last saw her, since she’s already got enough on her plates.  I know it in my heart that she’s already a wonderful mother, and the pictures that I see tell me so.  I miss her and I wish her well.

However at the same time, I also heard that my niece just recently left home, and she’s only 16 years old.  What worries me the most is that she is following her brothers footsteps who too left home at a early age.  She previously ran away from home once before and was lectured heavily by my aunty (seeing as it’s un-asian to do such things and our culture expects us to just deal with it).  But what my aunty also forgets is that we’re in Australia and times are changing, I hate the old fashioned way of the oldies do things sometimes.  I managed to call my niece before and spoke to her briefly, she doesn’t know when she’s coming home and I don’t think that she would like to.  I asked her if she wanted to meet up for breakfast tomorrow but brushed off the invitation since she was more concerned about what her friends were going to be doing.  I bit my lips and just didn’t want to say a word, I’ve got no right to say anything and its her parents who should be doing the talking. 

I can’t exactly blame them either since bringing a child into this world is hard work and requires a lot of attention.  More sacrifices have to be made on both sides and if the time and care is not invested, then the child suffers.  A perfect example that I see, is of my cousin who is currently raising his 8 year old son and his 1 year old daughter.  He and his wife do a wonderful job of parenting, and they show so much love and understanding to their children.  It makes me envious at times and wish that I could be a child all over again in that kind of environment.  From that I hope to do the best I can when that time arises, but talk is cheap and it’s only when I get there, that I’ll be truly tested.

We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he\she is someone today.  ~ Stacia Tauscher

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One mother has looked after me my whole life, the other is my birth mother but has been away my whole life.  One gives me encouragement and shows genuine concern over my life.  The other mocks me and has really nothing to say.  So when it all comes down to it, can you pick out which mother I would naturally be close to??

 It’s been two weeks since Justin has been in Australia and without a doubt, he’s been enjoying himself as he soaks in the culture, food and people.  Having celebrated the Christmas with us, his tour of Australia is nearing to and end since we soon will be leaving for Vietnam.  But not before we visit Sydney and get up to our own shenanigans there.  Alas, once he leaves Australia and we part our own ways, I’ll definitely miss him, since he’s given excitement to my life for this year. 

You can definitely call it a dull year for me but one that was filled with lessons.  I definitely appreciate my family and friends who have all done their part to help me.  Anyways more to come when I get the chance and I wish everyone here a Happy New Year!!

So my brother from another mother and father, is coming to Australia in like 20 hours and once again the LV crew is back in effect.  It’s been like a year now since I last saw him and our last adventures was quite fun filled.  He’s going to be spending time here seeing as he enjoys the travelling and seeing what other countries have to offer.  Some things I have to make sure that we do on his check list is :
1. See all of Sydney
2. See all of Canberra ……
3. See the Cricket
4. Check out the shops and the markets
5. Possibly meet a nice lady
6. Enjoy the beaches

Not a hard list but I’ll get through it somehow, although seeing the cricket right then and there could prove to be a challenge.  But anyways after we’re done here, we’re both off to Vietnam and it’s going to be a bit random up there.  I’ll have to fill in more as I go.